Becoming Your Own Detective: What Your Triggers and Judgments Reveal
- Trish Heitz
- 6 days ago
- 3 min read
Who doesn’t love a mystery — especially when you can find the clues right in front of you? Every emotional trigger, every judgment, every irritation is a message, a clue about what belief wounds you carry. When you become your own detective and begin uncovering them, you will have the most amazing "aha" moments! I don't know about you, but I LOVE "aha" moments!
For me, I discovered that for years, I believed my triggers were flaws, that I needed to hide. When someone irritated me, I tried to fix them. When I overreacted, I felt ashamed and suppressed it. By healing my beliefs and creating new ones that serve me, I’ve come to learn that these emotional reactions are not weaknesses; they are evidence that I never knew to pay attention to. Evidence of unhealed beliefs running beneath our awareness.
When you step into belief transformation work, the first phase is Discover: to notice what’s energetically driving you; the patterns, the triggers, the judgments, because they are pathways to our hidden belief systems.
Step One: Notice What Hooks Your Emotions
We all have a list of emotional red flags:
Anger
Insecurity
Jealousy
Procrastination
Self-sabotaging habits
These are not flaws, or enemies. They are signals. Signals that an unhealed belief is trying to be seen. Anger might be defending a boundary that was violated. Jealousy may come from a belief in scarcity or unworthiness. Procrastination often masks fear of failure or fear that you won’t be enough.
Your task is not to reject or judge these emotions. It’s to interrogate them with curiosity and compassion:
“What belief is feeding this feeling?”
"What inner story is still running me?”
Step Two: Examine Your Judgments
Here’s one of the deepest clues: what we judge in others is often what we haven’t healed or reconciled within ourselves.
If someone’s insecurity triggers irritation in you, pause and ask: “Is this something I’ve felt too? ”If someone’s perfectionism frustrates you, maybe you still chase perfection yourself, because you don't feel 'enough'.
Judgment usually isn’t about them. It’s a mirror pointing back to your own inner work. Unconsciously, we condemn ourselves, so therefore, we condemn others. Recognizing this transforms irritation into insight.
Step Three: Connect the Clues to Your Beliefs
Treat your life like a detective case.Every trigger, every repeated frustration, every judgment are clues leading you to your unhealed belief wound.
When you pause instead of reacting, you open a window to truth .That space gives you awareness, and awareness is the first step toward healing.
What I’ve Learned
In my own life, the parts I once hated have become my most powerful teachers.
The anger taught me the importance of boundaries as well as forgiveness.
The jealousy revealed what I deeply longed for and thought I could never have.
Procrastination exposed fear I wasn’t willing to acknowledge or feel.
When I stopped resisting and started listening/paying attention, I was able to reclaim my power. I was able to move from reaction to revelation.
Life switched from being a crime scene of emotional wounds to being a classroom of growth.
Breakthrough Cue
Next time you are triggered:
“If this moment were a clue, which unhealed belief would it uncover?”
You may discover the underlying story driving your emotion — and begin rewriting a new one.
If you would like to speak to, address, or discover what some of those beliefs may be, It would be my honor to share what I have learned in my own healing. Start with just a 30 minute session...